How to heal from insecure attachment in adults
To heal from insecure attachment as an adult takes time, tenderness, and tenacity. In an ideal world, infants would be lovingly welcomed and cared for by their main caregivers, bond…
Why self-help books don’t always work
Long ago, I discovered self-help books that didn't work. Self-development processes that didn't stick. Self-improvement methods that didn't bring about lasting improvements. It's not that these books, processes and methods…
Why you don’t know what you’re feeling – and how to fix it
Highly sensitive, highly intelligent people can sometimes be fairly clueless about their emotional life. It seems contradictory - how can someone so sensitive and so switched on be so dim…
Geek numb
The last of the five-part series: glad, mad, sad, bad, flat. First there were glad, mad, and sad. (Geek happy, geek rage, geek sad) Then bad entered the mix. (Geek…
Thinking that you’re feeling – the common mistake that blocks you
All too often, the head thinks it knows how the heart is feeling. The head talks about these feelings. The head likes thinking about these feelings. The head has great…
It’s not worth feeling angry, is it?
We've all been there. Something's happened and despite your best efforts you can't do anything about it now. You leave it in the past, or so you think. Whenever you…
Ten ways your mind blocks your emotional processing
Driving along one evening with a good friend, she was deep in explaining a somewhat complicated and upsetting situation. We were going round in circles, so I asked her how…
Sensitive insensitive
Have you ever noticed how it's very often the most insensitive people who are the most sensitive? How they can be insensitive to others feelings but are really sensitive themselves?…
How to kill your intuition
Killing your intuition may not be top of your to do list, at least not consciously. But many intuitively sensitive people unconsciously kill off their intuition: it's "easier" to not…
Gifted…and suicidal
May is a time of exams, of heavy pressure, of huge change. All of these can trigger suicidal thoughts, especially for gifted people. I first developed depression after sitting my…